Why Coaching rather than Counselling?
What are you seeking to resolve within a relationship, at work or within a life situation?
Create a picture of a clear outcome
The steps you choose to take to get there
Define coping strategies and create a positive mind set
Why might you be looking at a blog about Coaching verses Counselling?
How do we know we are happy?
How do we know we are going in the right direction in life?
How do we know we are in a positive relationship?
How do we measure success? How do we know when we have got there?
When we have got there was it as important as we thought it was?
Is there something now which we realise is more important?
Counselling is a longer, often weekly, process of unwinding the deep emotions inside in order to resolve them.
Coaching is a shorter directed process when you identify the emotion it is best to manage first and decide the ideal outcome you choose. This can be achieved in manageable steps/chunks.
In my case I add the option of working with the physical body at the same time; along with an Aromatherapy blend of essential oils. The WellBeingBlend for a real feeling of Wellbeing
How can we create a feeling of Wellbeing?
Wellbeing is a feeling that we are strong, resilient, free and clear about what is right for us (assuming our basic needs of food, water and a roof above our heads are met) we are able to function as a happy and contented human being – most of the time.
That's until we are reminded, by something which has happened - or by someone saying something - that we still have our gremlins; our emotions which are out of balance and threatening to upset our apple cart. Yet that’s simply about being human and it’s how we cope with these happenings which matters and makes life manageable and even happy.
To be happy in our own skin
It's when we OVER-REACT mentally or physically, to something a person said - or we think they said- that we realise that there is something wrong bubbling inside of us which is asking to be heard and dealt with:
How long will it take to hear this inner ‘gremlin’ and act upon it?
|Our relationships at home and at work..
are the place where we are able to become aware that - when we are willing to hear - something is wrong. The simple basic emotions of sadness, fear or anger are the basis of so many of the other emotions like frustration, confusion, worry, self-doubt which often lead to depression and anxiety.
If we do not express these emotions and instead hold them in and suppress them because we do not feel we would be liked or included or appear to be ineffective at work then damage begins to happen at a physical, cellular level (nerve responses in the brain and other cells in the body) - as well as making us over-react to a situation as the pressure builds up inside us which compromises our sense of Wellbeing. Often there are unresolved childhood issues getting in the way.
A great deal of the stress side-effects are via the over production of adrenaline; the stress hormone.
According to our particular make-up the ‘damage’ due to over-activity of our body's internal coping mechanisms will show themselves in various ways.
Feelings of low self esteem
We feel low self esteem when our inner emotional needs are not being met and our core values are not being honoured; maybe leading to anxiety or depression. I ask you to be as honest as you can about what is really happening and how you are feeling. Then step by step we work towards your ideal outcome.
Relationship problems, particularly at home when the person we have chosen to be with often reflects back to us our emotions, in their own individual way, by being sad or angry with us.
Our physical body begins to show symptoms which may be head-aches, a painful back, painful joints and even chronic fatigue or an auto-immune disorder like rheumatoid arthritis. You are looking for a comfortable body and Massage and Aromatherapy compliment my coaching work.
You may even be interested to consider whether looking at your emotional-self from a spiritual perspective may have some bearing on how you are feeling. Consider your Inner Wellbeing
What does a person need when they are struggling?
It’s often a combination of things
Let me help you to identify what is happening now, identify the associated core emotions and help you find your own way back to health. Identify, then support, the under-lying areas of the mind and body which struggle when you are experiencing stress. This means creating a safe ‘inner place’ where you are able to trust yourself and trust we are able to work together to help you relate to those around you better and increase your self-esteem.
Spend the time you need to focus on and understand your emotional patterns and change your reactions to thoughtful responses. Identify a clear picture of a measurable outcome and develop your own coping strategies with a positive mind-set.
Work with me to understand and address your particular life challenge
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