Feeling hopeless? Wanting to be heard?

Feeling stressed at work? Is a colleague’s behaviour at work challenging you and and you need to understand and address the strong emotions you are feeling?

Writing down our feelings in a journal help us to unravel how we truly feel and helps to dissipate the feelings – until we are really clear and can write down what is truly right for us.

Maybe you’d like to explore your feelings in more depth?

Where are your limits being challenged?
How can you make sure that your limits are not exceeded? We can’t hit people these days but this is where swearing CAN be useful every now and again where it is REALLY relevant and nothing else will pull the person up to really listen; especially if you do not normally swear. What are your core values which are being challenged?

First be clear what the challenge is and be sure of your stance and KNOW YOU ARE RIGHT TO THE VERY CORE OF YOU. Voice your choice again and then if it is still not heard take a strong stance with your feet slightly apart and make fists pointing down beside you and firmly tell the person they are not getting away with this action.

Time to take on your power and make a stand. Have you seen the Film Dances with Wolves? (I’m showing my age now!). Do you remember the woman? She’s called ‘STANDS WITH FISTS’.

She was a white girl who was taken by a native American Indian tribe. Because she was different she had to stand up for herself. So she stood up with arms held at her sides with her hands in fists. She did not actually have to hit anyone – they just KNEW she would hit them if they pushed her too far- so they did not push her beyond what they somehow knew were her limits. She had shown she was like a BEAR.

How does it feel to be strong? You have become the BEAR.

What are the effects, of you being strong, on you and the other person?
Write down the outcome – even if it was not what you hoped to gain.

The person knows you will stand up for yourself now.

What have you learnt about yourself from taking your power?
What have you learnt about them?
Is it a surprising thing you have learnt?

Is there something you did not realise was happening between you?
What decision have you made as a result?
How can you keep to your decision?

Transform strong emotional negative feelings about someone into more self-love.
By this I mean when we stand up for what is right for us we step out of the VICTIM role into the BEAR.

May your inner BEAR be with you this magical day as you create new coping strategies and a positive mind-set with someone you can trust when you are at your most vulnerable, and with whom you can plan those difficult but important conversations.

Make the right decisions. I can help.
First I listen and understand your situation.
Ask you questions which enable you to identify your strengths, create those coping strategies and a positive mind-set – and then give you the extra push you need.

You’re in a safe space where you can lick our wounds – and then get up again and face up to what is happening. Become stronger inside, clearer, confident.
Work out what is truly right for you; make what is right for you really happen.
Trust that you really can get out the other side.

You are the most important person in your life. Put yourself first.
Use Coaching and Mindfulness to overcome anger, frustration, anxiety, fear, shame or simply deep hurt.
I can help you identify what really matters to you and communicate your feelings clearly. Becoming more aware of where and when your principles are being compromised means you become more assertive.

Hello, I’m Fran Doidge from “Coaching for Wellbeing”.

My unique strength is the combination of Wellbeing Coaching with Relaxing Massage and a luxurious Aromatherapy blend of essential oils,
When feelings are running high the sense of touch along with Coaching helps to keep things in perspective and bring us back to a more calm and balanced place. I have 39 years experience of helping clients gain a fresh perspective on life and a more positive picture of themselves their relationships. I’ll help YOU find ways to be true to yourself and others.

• Coaching, Mindfulness, Massage ….. and even luxurious Aromatherapy blends especially for you.
• Decide which combination works for you;
• Coaching on it’s own -with Mindfulness where relevant
• Coaching and Massage (Why not talk on Skpe and I’ll send you Self Massage instructions to enjoy Massage at home)
• Coaching and Aromatherapy (Your luxurious blend of essential oils selected according to your individual needs sent to your home to use in a diffuser or add to carrier oil for self-massage.Your special bit of luxury)

or a combination of everything.
New coping strategies create a better relationship with your thoughts, your emotions, and your body. Create a new sense of direction and a positive mind-set; then find a new sense of respect for yourself and feel able to honour you and your body better.
Using Skype and email we can work together, even if we are far apart.
Using Zoom/Skype and email we can work together, even if we are far apart.
Or call me on 07974 400575 to arrange your FREE 30 minute chat…What would you like to talk about?

Let’s work on Zoom/Skype – OR I’m based in the UK in Malvern, Cradley or Hereford – let’s meet up if you live nearby.
And finally…
I’d love you to get in touch with me, so that we can see whether we are a fit to work together.
You can email me direct on fran@coachingforwellbeing.co.uk or call me on my mobile number 07974 400575.
If you’d like to see how I’ve helped others then see my home page at www.coachingforwellbeing.co.uk where you’ll see a lovely box of testimonials on the lower left of the page.

It would be great to connect with you on Facebook, so please come and join my group:
Fran Doidge’s Emotional High Five https://www.facebook.com/groups/FranDoidgesEmotionalHighFive/
I look forward to being in touch with you, bye for now.